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7/27/24

how to escape social media without missing out

today i decided that i needed to delete my tumblr due to it basically replacing twitter for me both in terms of time spent mindlessly scrolling on there and causing my mental health to decline. i've been on there since i was 12 so this was another big move for me. i was hesitating for awhile out of fear that i'd miss out on some ev graphics i would need to archive to the other site among other things. then i realized that i had a similar hesitation when i was deleting my other socials (losing friends, not being able to see what the bands i like are doing, missing out on important news, etc.) and i actually fixed those issues awhile ago. when i realized i could just apply those fixes to this situation, i felt more confident in my decision. i know that there are people out there who are going through this as well, so i might as well tell you how i made my sweet escape.

THE GUIDE

  1. if you want to stay up to date on news, bands, or specific pages you like, get an RSS reader! this was a game changer for me when i found out about this. i know that RSS has been a thing for a very long time now, but i never really knew what it did until recently. for those who don't know, you give it a website's xml file and it will have every site you want to keep up with in one place. here is how i found out how to set one up (i use feedbro personally). you can follow specific accounts and even an accounts specific tags on tumblr!

  2. if you want any social media alternatives, honestly just make your own website. i know, HTML looks scary, but it really is easier than you think. you can get a website up in a couple of hours with a guide and some graphics you either made yourself or pulled from other places (with permission/credit whenever possible, of course). my links page has a section dedicated to web buidling resources and another for graphics!

  3. forums are also a good alternative to social media. there are plenty out there for all sorts of broad or niche topics. if you've been around neocities, you may have heard of melonland, which is geared a bit towards people with websites and general indie web enjoyers, but it's also kind of a general forum and it's really chill and nice over there! forums are a lot smaller than social media sites of course, but there are still plenty of people out there to talk to.

  4. if you have friends that you want to keep in touch with, give them alternative ways to contact you! discord is probably your best bet (i don't like it but i'm begrudgingly keeping it instead of just sticking with forums because i have a lot of friends on there that i don't want to lose touch with) but if you don't want to deal with that you can also give them your email (or phone number but that's only if you're an really close with them and you are 100000000000% sure that they are who they say they are) (NEVER GIVE OUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER IF YOU'RE NOT AN ADULT). maybe you can even be in a forum together (lots of forums have private messaging)!

  5. if you get the urge to go back once you've quit, try to fight that urge! you'll feel weird for a few weeks, but eventually you'll feel a lot better and you probably won't even miss social media at all.

  6. fill the endless-scrolling void with hobbies and other things you enjoy/want to try. instead of just migrating to another social site or playing those mind numbing mobile games you always see ads for or scrolling through youtube shorts, do something that engages your brain and/or body instead! if you haven't read a book in ages, go read one! do you draw? play video games? skate? go do that! if you always wanted to try something you've never done before, now is the perfect time to do it (make the damn website already!). don't replace sludge with more sludge, replace it with something you'll feel good about.

if you're anything like me, i know that this will not be an easy task, but it is so worth it. you'll start feeling like a person again and you won't feel like you're wasting your limited time alive. i believe in you!